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A woman has made the decision not to attend her sister's wedding after discovering that the groom is her ex-fiancé.
In a recent Reddit post shared on the popular subreddit “Am I an idiot?”, the woman explained that she had been engaged to her fiancé Mike for two years, and together for five years, before discovering he was cheating on her three months before their wedding date.
“It was devastating and I called off the wedding immediately. Mike moved away shortly after we broke up and I thought that was the end. I was heartbroken but slowly started to move on with my life,” her Reddit post read.
Last month, her younger sister Lily called her to share “exciting news” while they were having dinner with their parents. Then, she suddenly surprised everyone by announcing that she was engaged to Mike, according to the Reddit post.
“Lily and Mike had been secretly dating for the past year and were now engaged. My parents knew about it for months but decided to keep it from me to ‘protect my feelings.’ They actually thought that I would eventually be happy for them,” she wrote.
Lily explained that the two didn't start dating until they were “officially over” and that their relationship was “meant to be.”
According to the Reddit user, she ended up leaving the dinner and telling her family that she wanted “nothing” to do with the wedding.
“Since then, my parents and Lily have bombarded me with calls and texts, calling me selfish and saying I’m overreacting. They claim that true love is a rare thing and that I should support Lily’s happiness,” the Reddit post continues.
However, as the wedding date draws closer, her parents have threatened to stop giving her money. Meanwhile, the woman said that her friends have given her various advice: some think she should attend the wedding to publicly show that she doesn't mind them being together, while others think she has a right to be angry and shouldn't attend.
“To add insult to injury, Lily recently asked me to be her maid of honor, claiming she wants to fix our relationship. This request has left me torn: I don’t want to further ruin our family dynamic, but I can’t shake the pain and betrayal I feel,” the post concluded.
Following the post, many people took to the comments to let the woman know that it was best for her not to attend the wedding and added that it was possible that Mike would cheat on her again.
“I’m sure you can’t control them getting together. They started dating after your relationship had ended. If your sister is in love with your affair partner and he’s a known cheater, all the best for her. I think deep down you’ll process the truth of that for yourself and maintain your relationship with your sister,” one comment began.
“BUT YOU NEED time to process this… dropping the bomb on you two months before the wedding. Expecting you to get over your feelings and also be a part of the wedding party is A LOT to ask in this situation. Your parents AND your sister made a terrible mistake by NOT letting you know about this sooner and not giving you time to process your feelings.”
Another commenter questioned whether it was possible that her sister was the person Mike cheated on her with in the beginning.
“The timeline here seems a bit questionable. They were supposed to get married about 12 months ago, but broke up 15 months ago and have magically been together for 12 months. I don’t know, maybe, but have you considered the possibility that she is the one he cheated with?” they wrote.
“I find it baffling that all the adults in this situation accept all of this without question and pressure you to do the same… that is INSANE. It is terrible to face the prospect of losing financial support, but you may be better off without all of them playing a major role in your life.”
