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A mother has been criticised after her son “ruined” the bride's cake at a wedding.
In a recent post shared on the popular website “Am I an Idiot?”, a woman asked if she made a mistake by not apologizing to her best friend, who yelled at her and her son at her wedding. The woman then explained what happened, noting that she, her husband, and her four-year-old son all attended her friend’s wedding.
She shared some context about her friendship with the bride, noting that her friend was initially unsure whether she wanted a child-free wedding or not. While her friend's sisters also have children, the bride still “wanted to be able to relax and enjoy her wedding without worrying about the kids ruining things.” However, after talking to her friend and her siblings about it, the bride and groom ultimately decided to invite the kids to the wedding.
According to the Reddit user, the wedding ceremony itself went pretty smoothly, as her husband and her best friend’s nieces were sitting with her. “I brought calm activities to keep them entertained and everyone behaved. I even cried at how beautiful it was,” she wrote.
She explained that after the newlyweds' first dance during the reception, guests were welcomed onto the dance floor before the cake was cut. At the time, her son was having fun with the other children present.
“The kids were running around and playing with each other and it was a pretty safe space and I knew almost everyone there so I felt comfortable with my son playing with the other kids while my husband and I had fun dancing,” the Reddit user added.
However, when it came time to cut the cake, the woman and her husband “took a while to arrive” and there was “a crowd blocking the way.” [their] view.” From there, they heard the bride yelling at her friend’s four-year-old son, who had interrupted the cutting ceremony, which sparked an argument between the two friends.
“My husband and I walk over to see what was wrong. I see my son with frosting around his mouth and on his fingers,” she wrote. “The cake was missing a small piece. I try to apologize, but my best friend turns around and yells, “This is YOUR FAULT. Your son RUINED my cake. It’s only here because YOU told me it would be worth it to include the kids!” I yelled at her and told her it was just an accident and the rest of the cake was still edible.”
Although the woman told her friend that she was yelling at her nephew, the girlfriend responded by saying that the Reddit user was “not friends with her.” [hers] and [the four-year-old] It was not [her] “nephew.” The woman was told to leave or else the bride would call security. The family of three then left the event.
The mother shared that after the wedding, the bride's sister approached her and “apologized” for the newlyweds' reaction when the four-year-old ate the cake. However, the Reddit user felt encouraged to apologize, something she didn't want to do.
“I think it’s not worth apologizing anymore after his outburst. I told his sister and told her I expected an apology before saying anything to her,” she concluded. “Not only did he get angry at me in front of everyone, but also at my son. I feel humiliated, but even more angry for him.”
The Reddit post quickly went viral, receiving over 5,500 upvotes. In the comments, several people criticized the mother, stating that she should have been watching her son at the wedding, specifically before he ate the cake, and that she should apologize to the bride.
“Your child is very young and needs supervision. No matter how safe the place is, there are a lot of things that are NOT safe (like the cake, cups, etc.) in the place,” one wrote. “Not only should you apologize, but you should have done it at the time instead of reacting with, ‘The rest of the cake is still edible’… and ‘It was an accident.’ It wasn’t an accident. Your child is young, so it wasn’t malicious, but it certainly wasn’t an accident.”
“The fact that your son took a big bite out of the wedding cake was not an accident. He did it because he wanted some cake and didn’t want to wait,” wrote another. “He’s four, but you could have told him not to touch the cake. This would have been avoided if you had supervised him properly. You need to apologize to your friend for being so negligent to the point that your son ruined the wedding cake. Parents like you who let their kids do whatever they want and then don’t take responsibility are the reason why so many people don’t want children attending events like this.”
“She allowed kids to be there based on your assurance that it would be okay to have them at the wedding. It’s especially infuriating when the only person who said kids deserved to be included is the same person whose child ruined her wedding celebration. It’s a big deal,” a third wrote. “It’s a once in a lifetime event. You’re a moron for not keeping an eye on your kids after yammering about how they should have them at the wedding. And you’re doubly so for not apologizing.”
