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A woman discovered a secret about her husband three years after their wedding and the Internet believes it is grounds for divorce.
In a recent Reddit post shared on the popular subreddit “Am I the jerk?”, the wife explained that many people have previously referred to her husband’s ex-girlfriend as “the one that got away.” She shared that her husband ended the relationship because he didn’t see a future with her, which left her close friends and family “shocked” at the time.
“Then we met and I soon understood that everyone on his side preferred her,” the woman wrote on Reddit. She explained that her husband “never gave her any attention.” [her] any reason to doubt him” and that “he knew exactly what he wanted,” so much so that he told her he loved her just a few months after beginning their relationship.
She continued: “He is fully aware of what people think about his decision to leave his ex and he gave the impression that he thought they were silly and childish. He told his mother that I am the one he chose.” [sic] And if he wanted to be part of it, he needed to improve his behavior.”
The couple has been married for three years and welcomed their first child together. However, things took a turn when his mother-in-law came to visit her newborn daughter. His husband's mother made a passing comment, saying she “wondered what would have happened if he changed his mind” about his ex-girlfriend, and wondered if she would be looking at her ex's baby instead.
Although the husband “told his mother to shut up” in response to the comment, he later admitted to his wife that he had gone on a date with his ex-girlfriend just before their wedding. “I wanted to be sure that she wasn’t like everyone around her thought, the one that got away. I wanted to be 100 percent sure,” he wrote.
After the news broke, the woman revealed that she has not spoken to her husband in a week. “It’s not something I’m doing to punish him, or manipulate him, or to have the upper hand and control him. I just can’t look at him or talk to him,” the post concluded, before wondering if she was wrong for giving her husband the “silent treatment.”
In the comments section, many people pointed out that her mother-in-law probably mentioned the date on purpose, while others pointed out that she was not wrong to ignore her husband.
“Why can’t people just be honest? If he told you he had lunch with his ex before you got married, would you still marry him? If he did explain, would you feel like a second-guessed or like he had doubts about his love for you?” one commenter questioned. “I know what I would do personally, but everyone is different. Do family and friends talk to you about their disappointment with their marriage all the time when you’re not around? No one wants to look like a fool. I certainly don’t.”
Another commenter agreed, writing: “His mother did this to you on purpose during one of your rawest and most vulnerable moments. She knew what she was doing and was instrumental. What your husband did was disgusting, how can you even know that nothing happened between the two of them?”
“You know if he did, he wouldn’t tell you anyway because he never told you about the date,” they added. “I think if you have a support system of your own, it’s time to see if maybe you could hang out with them for a bit to clear your head. These people are snakes and your husband is one of them.”
