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A groom has sparked outrage by refusing to change his wedding colour scheme.
In a recent post shared on the popular Reddit forum “Am I The I**hole?”, the groom shared how he and his partner of five years started talking about wedding planning, after being engaged for about nine months. He acknowledged that his fiancée is doing “a great job” of planning it and confessed that he’s “just letting her choose what she wants” since it’s her big day.
He then explained that they had been discussing colour combinations for his “suit accessories and the bridesmaids’ dresses” as he noted that his favourite colour is Cadbury purple. Although he claimed that the bride-to-be was initially on board with that colour combination, she later changed her mind.
“There was a point where she suggested different kinds of colours we could have – lilac, peach, sage green, baby blue,” he explained. “I said, ‘I told you I want Cadbury purple.’ She said I couldn’t have Cadbury purple because it doesn’t go with anything.”
According to the groom, he told his partner that he was fine with her being in charge of everything related to the wedding, and “the only contribution [he] I wanted to add that this was in reference to what he would wear to the event. However, they had an argument over the colour scheme, during which the groom was adamant about his desire to wear Cadbury purple.
“She started to get furious, saying I was making it difficult and asked if we could come to an agreement, and I told her it wouldn’t be an agreement if it wasn’t the colour I wanted,” he continued. “I told her that if it wasn’t Cadbury purple, then I didn’t care what colour it was. And that she should choose it herself and not pretend that I have a say in the wedding when I clearly don’t.”
The Reddit post quickly went viral, receiving over 2,000 upvotes. In the comments, several people criticised the groom for saying that he wants his partner to take the reins of wedding planning. They also criticised him for not coming to an agreement with the bride-to-be on the colour scheme, stating that Cadbury purple was not a good choice for a wedding.
“You’ve given her the responsibility of planning everything and then given her the challenge of trying to incorporate Cadbury purple into a decent colour scheme. She’s offered several non-traditional colour options so it’s not like I want to leave you with traditional black,” one wrote. “You’ve only contributed to one decision, and now she’s dictating the rest of the wedding that you’re not even planning.”
“Dude, you have no say if you don’t help with the planning, plain and simple,” wrote another. “You can come in and make an executive decision and then she has to source outfits, decorations, and other wedding items in your specific Cadbury purple color. If you were an active participant in the wedding planning process, it would be different, but you sit back and let her do all the work so you can just show up on the wedding day and enjoy.”
“Why can’t you just wear whatever purple you want and have the wedding guests wear lilac, or whatever shade they agree on? It seems like an easy compromise and then not everyone will look the same. It’s more elegant that way too,” replied a third.
In an edit to his post, the groom clarified that the outfit he wanted for the wedding was simply “plain black pants, a white shirt, a purple tie, and a white blazer.” He then went on to elaborate on why his fiancée wasn’t keen on the idea.
“[She] “She doesn’t like the color because it doesn’t fit the aesthetic of our place, it’s a beautiful modern rustic barn with fairy lights and a bright vibe, she thinks the color I chose will contrast too much with what she envisioned,” she wrote.
He also clarified that he and his partner are in the “early stages” of wedding planning as they have not set a date yet. The groom responded to criticism he received for his lack of involvement in wedding planning.
“All the work that has been done so far is the budget, some site visits, the guest list (which I was involved in) and starting to pick a color scheme,” she added. “The work hasn’t started yet. I’ve told her that if she wants my opinion on something, I’ll help her, but I don’t want to get in the way of her having the wedding she wants.”
