to the editor: I really enjoyed reading guest contributor Amy Getubig's article (“Women aren't too picky about dating. They just don't need men to feel fulfilled.” April 9). I certainly don't question your experiences, but two things occurred to me.
First, he mentions a cliché: “Los Angeles is a city built on reinvention. People come here to create something.” This is not really the experience for the wide swath of people who were born in Los Angeles and whose social circles also include people who were born here.
And yes, people from other parts of the country do come here to reinvent themselves. But as someone who grew up here, my friends who felt a strong need to reinvent themselves also moved to places like San Francisco, Seattle, New York City, and Portland, Oregon. I'm sure Getubig's statement is true for a lot of transplants, but it doesn't really explain Los Angeles to anyone who isn't part of that transplant group.
I found his other ideas compelling and intriguing. However, it seems that a generalization has been made. There are both men and women who might want to be in a relationship, but whose life experience is very different due to age. Men and women in their 20s and 40s and men and women in their 30s and 40s live very different lives and are in very different places in becoming who they are. It is not something that works for everyone.
I think more nuanced explanations would be welcome after reading this excellent first step in explaining the current situation.
Jerome Vered, Los Angeles
