A woman was disinvited from her best friend’s wedding after she told the bride that the groom “liked me first.”
In a post on the Reddit forum Am I the ***hole, a 26-year-old woman wrote that she and her best friend Izzy, 27, were on bad terms after making her and her fiancé Jake uncomfortable. repeatedly when telling his friends. and family that she dated him first and let her best friend have him.
“[Izzy and I] “We practically grew up together,” the girlfriend began in the publication. “We were closer in college, but after that we’ve grown apart a bit, but I still had a strong bond with her until recently. “She’s been there for me a lot and so have I, so this situation is difficult.”
The girlfriend explained that a few years earlier, Izzy went on a few dates with her now-fiancé Jake, but in the end their romance was short-lived and she was the one who broke it off, telling him she wasn’t interested in a serious relationship. relationship at that time.
“Even though I was her best friend, I didn’t really know Jake because she got asked out a lot, but only a few times got serious,” the bride explained. “So she knew about her boyfriends, but not necessarily about her dating.”
A year after their affair, the bride met Jake and fell in love with him.
“We quickly became good friends,” the bride shared. “I used to talk a lot about him to Izzy, but it was when I showed her the photo that she recognized him and told me about her dating him. Friendships were more important to me than any guy back then, so I asked him if it was okay to date him because I liked him a lot. She said she didn’t have any problems and joked about it ever turning into a relationship, which I took as a joke.”
But as the girlfriend’s relationship with Jake became serious and they moved in together, she and Izzy grew apart, but she hadn’t thought there was any ill will on Izzy’s part, until Jake proposed to her.
“After I got engaged, she became very weird,” the bride wrote. “She was very surprised and she couldn’t believe it. She then used to tell me that I am too young to get married and if I am safe, but I saw it simply as concern.”
Despite these red flags, the bride still asked Izzy to be her maid of honor along with her sister. But things changed after the bride posted engagement photos on social media and Izzy commented, “You better mention me in your vows because he likes me first haha” instead of words of congratulations like the rest of her friends. The girlfriend added: “Jake felt very uncomfortable and so did I, but I defended her saying it’s just Izzy, she jokes a lot.”
But the awkward comments didn’t end there: At a post-Christmas dinner the couple hosted, Izzy told her friends and family that Jake went out with her first and let the girlfriend have it. He allegedly continued to make those comments even after the couple told him it made them uncomfortable. When the bride told Izzy that she was taking things too far, Izzy said that she was overreacting, to which the bride responded that if that’s how she felt, she shouldn’t attend the wedding at all.
With their mutual friends “choosing sides based on who they know best,” the girlfriend asked users if she had been overreacting. She said: “I’m worried I’m ruining a lifelong friendship when I’m not even right.”
Most Reddit users took the bride’s side in the situation, saying that if someone told them they were “uncomfortable,” the right thing to do would be to apologize. One person said: “I think she loses all right to claim that it was “just a joke” when she expressed to her that it made you uncomfortable and asked her to stop. “You have every right to enforce your boundaries.”
“I think it put you in a very difficult position,” one person wrote. “You asked her to stop and she didn’t, so she kind of forced you.”
“Kick her out and leave her out forever,” added another. “She is jealous and insecure. She sees what you have and she wishes she had stayed with him or she wishes she had found someone too. It is disgusting the way she makes your special day all about her.”
