A woman's decision to demote her cousin from her wedding party received unanimous approval online.
To make sure her actions were valid, the bride-to-be detailed her reasons on Reddit's popular confession forum, Am I The A**hole. The original poster had been planning on having her cousin be a bridesmaid, but that changed when she requested a questionable companion.
“My cousin is currently dating my ex,” the girlfriend began before announcing that they ended their three-and-a-half-year relationship “amicably.” Still, she had no desire to entertain her former partner on her big day.
The Reddit user added: “Even though I no longer have feelings for him, I don't want him at my wedding, a day that is incredibly important to me. “I don’t want it to be there to potentially overshadow the happiness of the occasion.”
Aside from his own feelings, the Redditor worried about his cousin and noted that they hadn't seen each other for so long. He later admitted that they have only been dating for four months, and that they reunited three years after he and the Redditor broke up. If he attended the wedding, that would mean he would be in photos, probably with the family.
“I'm worried that if they break up, my cousin will be glad he's not in any of the photos,” the Reddit user added.
When his cousin inevitably asked if he could bring his boyfriend, the girlfriend's ex, the Reddit writer firmly told him he couldn't go. Her cousin quickly became angry and explained why she should be allowed to participate in the festivities.
The Reddit user said: “Feeling frustrated, I finally told her that if she insisted on having it there, I'd rather it not be there at all. “Now she’s mad at me.”
Although the bride understands why her cousin wants her boyfriend to be her date for the occasion, she does not want to sacrifice her own feelings and those of her partner just to make her cousin happy.
“I understand where my cousin is coming from, but I feel like she is not considering my feelings and those of my own partner, who I also have to consider when planning the wedding,” she said.
After reading the Reddit user's post, anonymous viewers flood the comments section and candidly write their thoughts. Overall, most readers felt the original poster did the right thing by standing their ground and drawing the line.
“NTA: your wedding, your guest list. End of discussion,” one follower wrote, while another agreed: “I think it was good that she asked you since you broke up with him amicably, but she should have accepted your no right away since it's your wedding ”.
“What real family member would date their cousin's ex? That's just disgusting and strange. She's weirder for wanting to bring him to your wedding, just disgusting,” one reader commented.
Another person argued: “I guess the cousin knew they were your EX before she started dating him. Choices have consequences and this is a consequence of her choice.”
