Reddit users weigh in on adult siblings' holiday bedroom dispute

Siblings are known to have difficulty getting along at times, especially in cases where they may have grown up sharing a room.

And according to a recent Reddit post, it looks like this rivalry may continue into adulthood.

In a post left on the popular subreddit “Am I a moron?”, a sister recently explained that she was in charge of planning a family trip that included her parents and younger brother.

Because it was difficult to find a three-bedroom apartment, she had called her brother ahead of time to see if he could share a room with her that had two separate beds, she said.

“He said it was fine because we would each have our own bed and asked me to reserve it. Once our parents gave the OK, I reserved it,” the Reddit post reads.

However, after arriving at the property, her brother said he thought the two should take turns sleeping on the sofa bed in the living room instead of sharing.

“I say I’m not going to do that. If he doesn’t want to sleep in our designated room, that’s fine. But I’m not going to sleep on a sofa bed during vacation when there are two beds,” the Reddit post continued.

After asking her brother why he had agreed to the original arrangement if sharing a room bothered her, he told his sister that they were adults and “too old” to share a room. He admitted that he only agreed to the idea after assuming that she would agree to take turns on the couch.

“I told him he shouldn’t have taken it up or at least had a conversation with me. He kept insisting and I said no. If he wants to sleep there for our entire vacation, fine. But I’m not going to alternate when I paid for a bed,” the sister wrote on Reddit.

This caused her brother to sleep on the couch every night during the holidays, she said, but he would lash out at his parents for entering the common room while he was sleeping.

“If people wanted to hang out in the living room at night, he would start pestering us to go to our bedrooms so he could sleep, as early as 8 p.m. We’re on vacation, we’ll stay up a little later and hang out. I always offered to let him sleep on the extra bed in the room, but he refused unless I promised I’d sleep on the pullout bed that night. Which I didn’t,” she explained.

“By the end of the trip (of 7 days and 6 nights), he was irritated with all of us for this. My parents and I felt that he was the one who put himself in this situation and that there was an alternative to sleeping on the couch, but he chose not to. However, my brother insists that I should have switched beds with him.”

After posting, many people took to the comments to express their agreement with the Reddit post's author and mentioned how irrational his brother was being.

“He willingly agreed to the sleeping arrangements as part of the booking process. He was crucial to the booking being made,” one comment begins.

“It’s very strange that he didn’t reveal his alternative plan for you two to go to sleep when he arrived, as he had every opportunity to have this conversation. He was always welcome in the second bed, as we had agreed. But, nonetheless, he continues to behave like a grumpy child about the whole thing and the people using the living room he chose to sleep in. He has set himself a goal all along with this situation.”

Another commenter questioned: “Why do you lie and say you agree and then demand the room to yourself and… so Choose a sofa bed in the living room as the hill to die on?

“It seems like he was making everyone miserable because he didn’t get his way, but he wasn’t gaining anything from his stupid stance either. What was the point of all this? Has he apologized? Does he seem to feel bad about it? Is he usually so entitled to all this? Why did he think it was acceptable for you to have the couch and not him? Good for you for not giving in.”