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A man has been wondering whether it was worth publicly confronting his co-worker after she didn't invite him to her wedding.
In a recent Reddit post shared on the popular subreddit “Am I the Asshole?”, he explained that everyone in his department at work was invited to his wedding except for him. “I was personally told that the wedding was going to be in a small space because they didn’t want to overspend. Everyone else was told I couldn’t attend,” the post read.
However, when the bride returned to work after her honeymoon, the entire department spent the meeting talking about the ceremony.
“A coworker commented that it was a shame I couldn’t attend; I pointed out that I wasn’t even invited. I could see the bride’s face visibly change and she is now angry with me and our working relationship is cordial at best,” the Reddit post continued.
He thought part of the problem might have been missing the dinner the department had planned for the bride.
“To follow up on this, our department organized a dinner and celebration for her and I contributed to the gift. The date was chosen and changed based on others’ availability, but I was unable to attend due to an overseas trip I had planned last year. It wasn’t even discussed if it could be changed so I could attend,” the Reddit user explained.
“The person who organized it was another co-worker and her best friend. I think this other co-worker and not the bride herself is the one behind my exclusion for some reason that I don't know.”
After posting, many people took to the comments section to defend his actions, mentioning that he only admitted the truth that he was not invited.
“She has the right to invite whoever she wants. Personally, unless something really heinous happened between you two, it would have been better if she had invited the entire department (including OP) or just a few of her closest colleagues. Inviting an entire department except for one person is rude behavior. Again, the girlfriend can invite whoever she wants, but this is rude IMHO,” one comment began.
“The conclusion is that you were not invited. You corrected the assumption that you had chosen not to go.”
Another commenter agreed, writing: “What did I expect? Of course everyone would be talking about her wedding when she returned. And of course the only absentee from this group would stand out and be the subject of debate. What did I expect you to respond to?”
“If you want someone to lie for you, you better tell them beforehand. If you don't tell them, they won't know that they have to lie for you.”
“It’s her wedding, so she can invite whoever she wants. However, if she feels uncomfortable about excluding you, that’s her problem, not yours,” a third commenter noted. “You’re not obligated to lie for her. And it’s probably better to make that clear beforehand rather than having to backtrack later. I mean, what if someone thoughtlessly asked you why you couldn’t make it to the wedding? Are you going to make up another lie about an impromptu vacation that took you out of town, some illness, etc.?”
