Let's talk about sex | The most common female sexual problems and how to solve them

Sex may permeate our popular culture, but conversations about it are still associated with stigma and shame in Indian homes. As a result, most people facing sexual health issues or trying to find information about sex often turn to unverified online sources or follow unscientific advice from their friends. To address widespread misinformation about sex, News18.com publishes this weekly sex column, titled 'Let's Talk About Sex.' We hope to start conversations about sex through this column and address sexual health issues with scientific knowledge and nuance.

In this article, we'll look at the four most common sexual problems women face, why they occur, and how to fix them.

Women can experience a variety of problems that affect their sex life and intimacy. The most common problems revolve around desire, arousal, and the ability to achieve orgasm. Whether it's difficulty getting aroused, inability to orgasm, pain during sex, low libido, or something else entirely, female sexual dysfunction is much more common than you think. The good news is that many of these problems can be solved, or at least improved, with some simple lifestyle changes.

Pain during sexual relations: causes and solutions

The most common complaint that many gynecologists hear from patients is pain during sexual intercourse. Painful sexual intercourse, also known as dyspareunia, can have both physical and emotional causes. There are several ways to eliminate or reduce this discomfort so that you can enjoy intimacy with your partner again.

• Lack of lubrication: For many women, the problem comes down to simple anatomy. Your body may not be producing enough natural lubrication to make sex pleasurable. The solution is as easy as using an over-the-counter lubricant. Apply it generously before and during sexual relations. If lubricants don't help, talk to your doctor about prescription estrogen creams, which can increase moisture.
• Vaginal infections: Yeast infections or bacterial vaginosis can make sexual intercourse painful. Consult your doctor for accurate diagnosis and treatment, such as antifungal medications for fungal infections or antibiotics for BV. Be sure to use all medications as prescribed and avoid sexual intercourse until you have completed full treatment and symptoms have resolved.
• Endometriosis or pelvic inflammatory disease: For some women, an underlying condition such as endometriosis or PID is responsible for discomfort during sex. These require diagnosis and treatment by a doctor. Treatment options range from pain relievers and physical therapy to laparoscopic surgery. Do not ignore chronic or severe pain, see your doctor immediately for an examination and diagnosis.

Low sexual desire: reactivate your libido

Loss of libido is a common problem among women and can be caused by many factors such as hormonal changes, stress, fatigue or relationship problems. Here are several things you can do to increase your sex drive and regain your charm.

• Reduces stress: Chronic stress is a major libido killer. Make time for stress-relieving activities, such as yoga, meditation, exercise, or massage.
• Sleeping more: Lack of sleep can negatively affect your libido. Aim for 7 to 8 hours of sleep per night to feel well-rested and in a good mood.
• Eat a healthy diet: A balanced diet with plenty of fruits and vegetables, lean proteins, and whole grains provides the energy and nutrients you need for a healthy sex drive. Limit alcohol and avoid sugary or greasy junk foods.
• Exercise regularly: Exercise increases blood flow to the genitals and releases feel-good hormones that increase libido.

Inability to Reach Orgasm: Tips for Achieving the Big O

Many women struggle to reach orgasm during sex, but the good news is that there are several things you can try to increase your chances of climaxing.

• Focus on foreplay: Take your time to get aroused before any contact occurs below the belt. Kissing, caressing, and engaging in prolonged foreplay will increase your arousal and make orgasm more likely.
• Try different positions: Certain sexual positions may be more pleasurable or stimulating for you. The woman in the upper positions allows you to control the angle, depth and pace of penetration. Doggy style or lying on your stomach with your legs closed can also increase sensation. Experiment to find what feels best for you.
• Use sex toys: Sex toys like vibrators and dildos can increase pleasure and intensify arousal. Use a vibrator on your clitoris during sex to increase stimulation. You can also try toys that stimulate the G-spot.
• Focus on the clitoris: For most women, clitoral stimulation is required to reach orgasm. Have your partner use their fingers or a vibrator to rub and caress your clitoris. Start slowly and gently, increasing speed and pressure as your arousal increases.

Vaginal dryness: making things slippery again

Vaginal dryness is one of the most common sexual problems women face, especially as we age. But don't worry, there are several ways to get back into the swing of things and make sex comfortable again.

• Use lubricant: The easiest solution is to use a water-based lubricant. Apply it generously to your vagina and vulva before any sexual activity. Reapply as needed. The lubricant reduces friction and instantly solves dryness. It's a quick fix, but for many women, lubricant alone isn't enough for long-term relief from chronic dryness.
• Hormone therapy: If you are in menopause or perimenopause, it is likely that declining estrogen levels are causing vaginal dryness. Hormone replacement therapy (HRT) or low-dose vaginal estrogen therapy can help increase moisture and make intercourse more comfortable again.
• Try moisturizing gels: Like a facial cream for the vagina, these gels hydrate and soothe dry, irritated tissue. The gel is applied 2 or 3 times a week to keep the vagina continuously hydrated. It may take up to a month of regular use to experience the full effects. Moisturizing gels are very safe, but may need to be used long-term to control symptoms.

So ladies, don't suffer in silence or feel ashamed. The keys to overcoming most female sexual problems are open communication with your partner, maintaining a healthy lifestyle, learning about your body, and seeking advice from medical professionals when necessary. Every woman deserves to feel confident and sexually fulfilled, so don't hesitate to make your sexual well-being a priority.

With a little awareness and effort, you can overcome frustrating bedroom problems. Stay positive and proactive – your sexy, satisfied future self will thank you. Now go out and take charge of your body and your relationship.