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A girlfriend has been defended online after refusing to let her boyfriend pick her up from her dentist appointment.
In a post on popular Reddit confession forum Am I The A**hole, the 21-year-old aired her grievances and questioned whether anonymous users thought her decision was justified.
She began by explaining how she lives with her 23-year-old boyfriend, with whom she has been for two and a half years.
After a recent visit to the dentist, the Reddit user discovered that she had an infection in her tooth and therefore needed to have it extracted. She scheduled an appointment and asked her boyfriend if he could pick her up since she would have to take laughing gas after the procedure.
“My boyfriend said he was supposed to go hiking with his mom and sister on Monday, but he said he would check back to see if it was still a plan because they hadn’t talked about it in a while,” the Redditor wrote.
“Two days went by and he tells me that neither of them responded to his calls or texts about it and he said he could take me and take care of me at home,” she added.
However, just days before the date, the Redditor said her boyfriend backed out, arguing that his sister and mother still wanted to go on the trip.
Since her partner could no longer pick her up, the original author was forced to ask her friend if she could drive her. Unfortunately, her friend said she couldn't.
“I told my boyfriend that he was the only one who could take me to the dentist except for my dad, who lives an hour away from us and it would be impossible for him to drive an hour just to pick me up from the dentist,” the Reddit user noted.
Instead of offering her alternative options, the Redditor's boyfriend told her that his family didn't like her.
“My boyfriend told me that his family doesn’t like me anymore and thinks I’m stealing him from them and that cancelling his appointment to pick me up from the dentist will only make things worse,” she confessed.
“I got really mad at him and told him his family could go on the hike any other day, but my tooth hurts so bad and it’s an emergency; I just want some relief and I can’t reschedule because my antibiotics will run out before the next appointment,” the Reddit writer continued.
Her boyfriend did not take her argument lightly. In fact, she says, he “went into a rage” and told her that she should be able to drive herself home, arguing that if he were in her situation, he would be able to.
When she said she would ask her father to take her, she said her boyfriend told her he would do it.
But the Redditor was no longer interested in having him drive it.
“I explained to him that I didn’t want him to take me anymore because he argued that his family would be angry with him and me for canceling his walk, and that my father would be okay with taking me because I am his daughter and he cares about me,” she said.
Questioning her decision, the original writer asked her fellow Reddit users for their opinion.
Was she wrong to ask for help and then refuse it? Or was her boyfriend to blame for her reaction?
Most readers seemed to side with the bride.
“He promised to take you, but then cancelled. Obviously the walk wasn’t that big of a deal if neither the mother nor the sister bothered to answer for days and screened his calls,” one person noted.
Another said: “He needs to learn what it means to be in a relationship. Sometimes bad things happen and you have to make sacrifices when it comes to taking care of your partner.”
“I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with a man who prioritizes his career over my medical procedures,” wrote one candid reader.
Someone else chimed in: “Your boyfriend’s priorities make it clear that this relationship is not right for you. If my girlfriend was suffering, I would gladly skip a hike to help her.”
