Everything seems brighter when the sun comes out. Dazzling blue skies, long balmy afternoons, lush, leafy trees and parks – what's not to love? But let's be honest, summer can also bring us lukewarm feelings.
“There is a lot of anxiety in summer,” says Dr Rachael Molitor, chartered psychologist and lecturer at Coventry University.
“The 'pink' view of others' lives on social media and the fear of missing out (FOMO). Social pressure plays a role here, as invitations to barbecues, parties and gatherings increase when the weather is nice, but one may feel pressured to attend, due to social norms, while still having to adapt to the normal balance between work and the life and commitments he has. They have done it too, leading to increased stress and taking on too many responsibilities.
“Seeing others having a fabulous summer too, especially on social media, can be challenging, when one may feel self-conscious about their pre-summer body, challenges of not being able to attend events/parties due to financial implications, and not feeling like “They have a life as cool as other people they see online.”
Sun FOMO
Good weather often seems like a rare thing in this part of the world, so it's no wonder everyone wants to make the most of it. But the pressure to fill your diary with fun stuff and the surge of FOMO that comes with it can be overwhelming.
“Summer often brings a whirlwind of activities and the pressure to participate in each event can be overwhelming,” agrees Lorena Bernal, certified life coach and founder of Live Love Better.
“My top tip for navigating FOMO is to listen to your inner voice. Ask yourself, ‘Why do I feel the need to do this?’ Embrace the idea that it’s okay to say no and prioritize rest if that’s what you need. Understand that everyone has different needs and preferences.
“Find joy in simple pleasures, like waking up without an alarm, enjoying a quiet breakfast, or having meaningful conversations with loved ones. Remember, you don't have to prove anything to anyone, just enjoy every moment as it is.”
Comparison traps
At the other end of the scale, it can be a real disappointment if it seems like everyone else is living their best summer life, while your phone isn't getting invites or you can't afford festivals and holidays.
What you see online is often a curated version of reality…
“It's easy to fall into the trap of comparing your summer to others, especially with social media highlights. To get away from this, focus on what brings you joy,” says Bernal. “Keep in mind that what you see online is often a curated version of reality. People who truly enjoy their moments aren't worried about capturing and sharing them.
“Ask yourself what you really enjoy and do those activities, whether alone or with other people. Joy comes not from the greatness of the moment, but from appreciating and embracing each experience as it comes. Shift your perspective toward gratitude and make the most of every moment, no matter how simple it may seem.”
Could it be SAD summer?
While we primarily associate seasonal affective disorder (SAD) with the winter months (when a lack of daylight is thought to trigger a form of depression in some people), sometimes the same thing can happen in the summer. So, if you notice a significant and ongoing change in your mood with the arrival of summer, it might be worth considering whether something else is going on.
“Summer SAD is unique because there is usually a noticeable increase in the severity and intensity of symptoms during the summer months,” says Lisa Gunn, mental health prevention lead at Nuffield Health. “Although SAD during the summer is rarer than in winter, it is estimated that about 10% of all SAD cases occur during the warmer months.”
Symptoms can vary from person to person, but include depression, anxiety, fatigue, increased stress and aggression. People may lose interest in socializing and things they normally enjoy, Gunn notes, while changes in appetite, sleep problems, and difficulty concentrating are also common.
“Symptoms of depression or any mental health issue should always be explored with a professional if they persist and have a negative impact on your daily life,” adds Gunn. A doctor will be able to analyze whether any evaluation or treatment is necessary. be appropriate.
Self-help measures can also help. In addition to trying to get enough sleep and exercise, Gunn suggests: “Limit your time in the sun: This doesn't mean you won't enjoy the summer, but make sure you don't overexert yourself. Dehydration, sunburn, and general fatigue can worsen depression symptoms in hot weather.
“Don’t beat yourself up,” she adds. “Guilt for saying no and obsession with FOMO are common feelings when it comes to setting boundaries around one’s mental health. But remember that if you’re suffering from any form of depression, you may need to rearrange your schedule and prioritize events and occasions that suit you. Letting your close friends and loved ones know how you feel can be an effective coping strategy for situations like this.”
