tThere is a fine line here between being a hopeful romantic and a hopeless romantic, but that line becomes blurred when the practice of manifestation comes into the picture.
Those who practice manifestation believe they have the cosmic ability to attract whatever they desire through positive thinking, self-talk, visualization, and symbolic actions. By believing that their sheer force of will can change the will of the universe, they believe they can get what they want, including love and romance.
Over the years, these ideas have resonated with internet users and gained traction on TikTok, frequently filling For You pages with ways to manifest what you want. From reciting affirmations like “I don't chase, I attract” in front of the mirror to writing your goals on a piece of paper and burning it with a candle flame, manifestation can come in all kinds of forms.
Spiritual influencer Sarah Perl, who goes by Hot High Priestess on social media, frequently goes viral for her popular manifestation methods. speaking to The independentHe said that practicing manifestation can empower those who lack faith in themselves.
“You're changing your inner dialogue, right?” she says. “Where the focus goes, the energy flows. That’s why you need to make sure you constantly focus on the good things about yourself.”
In her manifestation workshop, Perl says she has helped her clients attract the love they deserve by giving them the tools to build their self-esteem. Whether they've been cheated on, divorced, or cheated on, she notes that by engaging in the positive self-talk practiced in manifestation, her clients can channel what they really want.
“Because they change their inner identity, they walk differently,” he said. “They are talking differently. They seem different. Their energy is different. They are attracting new partners because they have this, and I think it's very important to understand that when people have this confidence, this energy and the aura that they exude, their standards are higher. They are not satisfied with the same behavior. “They are distancing themselves from people who are of no use to them.”
Perl emphasizes that applying the law of attraction is crucial to unlocking your potential and finding the love you deserve. Considered a principle of manifestation, the law of attraction states that our thoughts and feelings define our reality. Essentially, you attract the energy that you release into the world, and if you want to change the type of people you attract, you have to change the way you think and feel about yourself.
“Start by thinking about who you want to attract,” Perl recommends. “But then also ask yourself who is the person that this person would want to attract into their life and how can you create the perception that you are that person, that you are the girl or boy of your dreams.”
This is not the only method Perl advocates, as one of his most popular methods requires protesters to write a love letter to themselves from the perspective of their potential love interest. “You close your eyes, get into that mood, pretend you're them now,” she says, noting that you can write about your future first date together or how beautiful you are in their eyes. At the end of the day, it's about imagining how they see you and promoting yourself from her point of view. “I get direct messages every day from people saying this works, and part of the reason is that you're embracing that belief and that concept of yourself.”
The idea of self-concept suggests that the way you perceive the world around you is a direct reflection of the way you see yourself. By writing love letters through the eyes of others, Perl believes you can improve the way you see yourself. He adds that by doing this, you can attract more positive energy into your life, including better romantic partners.
With methods like the love letter, it is recommended to channel what you want into material experiences to affirm the belief that everything you are manifesting is already there.
Dr. Lucas Dixon, who researches the social psychology of the “success” industry at the University of Queensland, Australia, explained to The independent that manifestation is based on the idea that there is a higher power listening on the other side.
“Like a radio transmitter, a person's thoughts and emotions transmit invisible but powerful messages,” he says. “These messages are received by a higher power and these powers send the person material experiences that coincide with the original thoughts and emotions. Therefore, a person can take advantage of this reciprocal process to deliberately manifest whatever he desires.”
Protesters believe that if they convey their wishes through symbolic actions (such as writing love letters) to a higher power, they will receive their wishes materially in return.
While Dr. Dixon agrees that manifestation can be helpful in that it can prompt you to identify what you want and what you don't want in your partner, he maintains that well-researched psychological methods, such as cognitive therapy, Behavioral therapy (CBT) or interpersonal therapy can help you unravel any negative patterns you have in your interpersonal relationships and also give you the tools to engage in positive self-talk. He encourages people to try seeing a qualified psychologist or counsellor.
“Sure, it may not be as sexy or simple as a TikTok video,” she says. “But his advice is based on broader scientific evidence and not just his own experience of what works.”
How you choose to go back to the drawing board and challenge negative thought processes may look different depending on what you are most inclined to believe in, whether you are spiritually or scientifically inclined. However, no matter which belief system you subscribe to, both encourage people to look inward and reflect.
By working on yourself, you can improve your chances of meeting and attracting someone who meets several, if not all, of your requirements. Challenging the things that may be holding you back, such as negative self-talk or low self-esteem, through manifestation or therapy, can ultimately lead to not only a healthier you but also attracting a partner who is willing to strive to deserve you too.
