A girlfriend opens up about the situation her future in-laws put her in.
In a recent Reddit post shared in the popular “Am I the Asshole?” On the forum, the bride explained that her fiancé's parents offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner. According to the woman, the couple was very detailed in checking what their price range was before sending any options.
“With this knowledge, we asked several times what our budget was and sent a list of places we would like to have it with prices attached. We didn't hear anything from them, after sending multiple lists and asking questions,” the bride explained in her Reddit post.
Two weeks after not receiving a response, they received a call from their fiancé's father, who told them that he had already reserved a place that was not one of the options they were sent.
The girlfriend explained that the suggested venue was a bar that had “multiple one-star reviews” for “bad food” and that she had been there herself and had a bad experience as well.
“We asked why we weren't involved and told them to cancel it. There was no cancellation fee and they would receive their deposit in full. They said they would think about it and asked for more options,” the Reddit post continued.
The couple then came across an Italian restaurant that was halfway between the wedding venue and the hotel where their guests were staying. She sent the information to her future in-laws and received no response.
“Then last night they finally responded with 'no, we're sticking to the original location' and 'we don't want to start a war.' “I'm beyond frustrated and at this point I might book the place we want anyway,” the post concluded before asking people for their opinion.
After the publication, many people took to the comments to defend the bride's decision because it is her wedding day. Others offered suggestions on how to possibly pay for the rehearsal dinner herself to make it the way she wants.
“Hold the rehearsal dinner wherever you want, not at the place with bad food that you actually have been in and I have had bad experiences,” began one comment.
“If your future in-laws get angry and you have to pay for dinner yourself, so be it. Don't start your marriage by having your wedding rehearsal in a place you didn't ask for and don't even like. If your in-laws feel insulted, they should ask themselves why they couldn't have chosen one of the places on your list, or at least actively communicate with you before committing.”
“The dinner has not yet taken place; you can still save it. If paying for the alternative venue is a problem, you can choose a more modest venue, but at least it won't be a bad place. “Don’t start your wedding by backing out and committing like this,” the comment concluded.
Another commenter asked why her fiance didn't intervene because they are her parents.
“Why would your future in-laws want to have their rehearsal dinner at a place with bad food? Surely the one star reviews plus your own bad experiences should be enough to dissuade you from this place. It's not just up to you to ask for what you want, either. Why isn't your fiancé more involved in this? They questioned.
“They are his parents. While it's generous of you to pay for dinner, if it's something neither of you wants, then you should take that into account. Why is your fiancé just waiting for them to respond? Can't she pick up the phone and call? Or go visit us, assuming they don't go too far?
