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A bride kicked her sister out of her wedding after she refused to follow the predetermined colour scheme.
The 25-year-old has been fighting with her sister for years since they lived under their parents' roof. “When I was nine, my parents adopted my sister 'Jen,' who was seven at the time,” the bride explained in a Reddit post. “Anything Jen wanted, she got.”
Seeking outside opinions, the bride took to popular Reddit confession forum Am I The A**hole and detailed the situation that occurred between her and her sister before the wedding. However, the Reddit user thought it would be best to describe her existing relationship with her sister first.
“When I was asked if I could let Jen pick out the decorations and cake for my upcoming birthday, I agreed. I was so happy to have a sister and understood why my parents gave her special treatment,” she said, offering context.
The Reddit user never objected when her parents insisted that Jen could decide what to do on holidays or someone's birthday. “If she didn't get what she wanted, she would throw a tantrum,” she said.
Still, the Reddit user felt “loved” by her parents, even if their desires were secondary to Jen’s. For years, she spent time trying to avoid her family. She stayed out of the house and got a job when she was 12. The Reddit user made sure to pass her driving test. She attended college on the other side of the country. She was determined to make a living outside of her sister’s shadow.
“Now that I make good money, I do things I didn’t do as a kid. I take fancy vacations and throw elaborate parties at my whim,” the Redditor admitted. “My wedding was no exception. My fiancé ‘Kip’ and I wanted everything to be perfect.”
One of their wedding plans included a color scheme. “My favorite color is yellow and his favorite color is blue, so my guests would wear yellow, he would wear blue and their mutual friends would wear green,” she explained. The bride and groom also planned to wear clothing in shades of green. Guests were asked to wear neutral colors if they didn’t have an outfit that matched their designated color.
Everyone seemed to be on board with the color scheme, except for Jen. According to the Reddit user, Jen was furious when she found out she had to wear yellow because the color “washes her out.” Jen not only complained to her sister, but refused to comply with her wishes.
“I shrugged and told her it was okay, I would kick her out if she didn’t wear yellow,” the original poster confessed. Unfortunately, Jen didn’t listen.
“On my wedding day, Jen showed up in a purple dress. I told her to leave immediately,” the bride said. “Jen refused to leave until I threatened to call security.”
After Jen left, the wedding continued. The redditor's parents didn't express their anger until after the ceremony, yelling at the bride for kicking Jen out. They called her “cruel” and said her reasoning for kicking her sister out was “trivial.”
The Redditor told her parents: “This was MY wedding, I organised it without their support so I can kick out whoever I want. Kip came running to defend me and even told my parents they should be ashamed of themselves for how they treated me.”
Since the huge scandal broke out, the Reddit writer has spoken to several members of her family who have expressed mixed opinions about her. Some believe she is completely wrong, while others think her actions are correct.
Confused, the Redditor asked her readers what they thought: an overwhelming majority responded with support.
One person wrote: “What you can’t do is say a colour scheme is stupid, so I’m going to make up my own rules and force the couple getting married to let me in.”
“I have been to weddings where the bride and groom wanted a colour scheme. To date, I have not met anyone who had the same problem and showed up with a different colour just out of spite,” admitted another wedding guest.
Someone else added: “I could have even used green and said, 'I'm mixing up the colors because we're adding someone to the family, just like -I- added myself to the family.'”
“NTA because you defended yourself,” argued one reader.
