10 signs of poor communication in a relationship


Instead of genuinely listening and considering your point of view, some people become defensive and respond with criticism in a relationship. (Image: Shutterstock)

Be on the lookout for these 10 signs of poor communication in a relationship and try to remediate them or seek help depending on your relationship situation.

In marriages, effective communication is essential to building a strong and lasting bond between partners. It fosters a sense of closeness, understanding and trust, laying the foundation for a healthy relationship. On the contrary, poor communication can pave the way for misunderstandings, resentments, and even the breakdown of the marriage.

Here are 10 signs that indicate communication problems in a marriage:

  1. DistractionGetting distracted by internal thoughts instead of engaging in meaningful conversation with your partner may indicate a communication problem in your marriage. When a couple constantly prioritizes other activities instead of spending quality time and communicating with their spouse, it can create feelings of abandonment and disconnection. Over time, this lack of effort to cultivate the relationship can lead to resentment and dissatisfaction, which could contribute to the breakdown of the marriage.
  2. Continuous interruptionIf you frequently interrupt your partner before they even finish speaking, it shows that you are not interested and are trying to end the conversation as soon as possible. It also shows a lack of respect for their point of view. This can prevent them from expressing their thoughts.
  3. EmotionsInstead of acknowledging your partner's emotions, you may minimize their feelings. This can make them feel unheard and you may not be interested in understanding their feelings.
  4. defensive attitudeInstead of genuinely listening and considering your point of view, some people become defensive and respond with criticism. This defensive behavior blocks effective communication and affects problem solving.
  5. Forgetting important dates and detailsFrequently forgetting important details they share indicates a lack of attention and commitment, making them feel unimportant and discouraged from sharing their thoughts and experiences.
  6. EmpathyStruggling to put yourself in your partner's shoes and misinterpreting their emotions can create a disconnect in the relationship, making one feel unsupported and unvalued.
  7. Silent treatmentIt may seem like you are ignoring your partner, refusing to talk or participate, which can make them feel isolated and rejected. Some people use this as a form of punishment or control to feel guilty.
  8. DisrespectDisrespect in a relationship can take many forms, such as bad comments, rude behavior, or crossing boundaries. It can turn a healthy relationship into a painful one.
  9. Efforts to make plans.Refusing to make plans or not involving your partner in decision-making can make them feel undervalued and unimportant.
  10. Jump to solutionsInstead of actively listening and empathizing, some people immediately rush to provide solutions or advice. This can make your partner feel ignored and invalidated, as they may simply be seeking emotional support.

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